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Welcome to this important discussion starter in's Advent and Christmas during the Pandemic Forum. Replies welcome.


In addition to being a season of celebration, Advent is also a season of pastoral concern for many reasons, and the pandemic has only heightened these needs:

  • Grieving the death of family members and feeling that loss more deeply at Christmas
  • Dealing with brokenness and financial hardship, something many are feeling this year
  • Loss of traditional activities and community events due to pandemic concerns
  • Isolation due to health concerns and fear
  • Pent-up frustrations from the pandemic
  • Stress and anxiety ratcheted up by worry and uncertainty

Christmas is a season when we traditionally "think on the past," and this year the line between "nostalgia and lament" will be thinner than most. And these emotions have been heightened by the losses, vulnerabilities, and economic and social upheaval brought on by the pandemic.

Traditionally, churches have responded to Advent's pastoral needs by inviting members to events and celebrations and evoking fond memories and comforting stories. In 2020, however, many of our "traditions" and usual expectations were revised by social-distancing, and some even canceled, which opens the door to stress and despair even wider for those prone to it, or already experiencing it, and perhaps some for whom this will be their first year dealing with it. In many communities, 2021 still brings uncertainty and cancellations in the face of Covid surges and variants causing breakthrough infections.

One of the things I learned as a young minister was that not everyone was coming to Christmas Eve services with a celebratory mindset. Many were stressed out for various reasons past and present. For some, it was a trigger for or release from pain and loss, a reminder of "who wasn't with them." I was caught up in all the details of leading one year until I noticed a young adult man sobbing after the midnight service. He said, "my dad isn't here," and I immediately assumed he meant dead. "No, I mean he's home drunk like every Christmas Eve and he promised he would come for mom." His mother, a member from years ago had passed away.  It was then that I realized our Christmas Eve services needed to include a message of coping and hoping, forgiveness and comfort —and not just "lessons and carols."

Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.


1. Share that mourning and anxiety are normal, even spiritual -- and realize that YOU may be the "comforter" Jesus was talking about.

2. Sensitize others to the subject, members, staff and volunteer leaders, asking them to "be on the lookout" for those in need, and giving them resources to respond.

3. Identify those who "check" many of the boxes this year for despair, and make a plan to personally stay in touch with them and invite them to get involved (or at least know you care).

4. Make sure your "in-church" celebrations are available to those who cannot be there in person.

5. Create and promote meaningful "alternative" forms of celebrating Advent, such as "at-home" rituals and devotions, and speak to "loss" and anxiety at gathered services.

6. Start a Zoom Bible study and discussion group for those who have extra needs this Advent.

7. Invite members-in-need to have Christmas dinner with you or join in an at-home celebration with you.

8. Not all people in need this Advent will be older or dealing with the loss of a loved one. Christmas time can be especially challenging for single young adults far from home, those in the LGBTQ community, first-responders, the poor or out-of-work, and military families.

9. Make sure your Advent message focuses on Hope that "overcomes" -- even "rejoices" in suffering (Rom 5:3-5), and that your message isn't just nostalgic. Coping + Hoping this year especially.

10. {Your suggestions here!}

A Few Resources:

Neil MacQueen is a Presbyterian minister specializing in Christian education. He is the Lead Writer at Your comments and suggestions are welcome!


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Rituals of Healing and Hope

Rituals are powerful ways to acknowledge and express loss, and aid in healing.

Here are a couple of ideas for rituals of healing and hope that may be especially significant again in Advent 2021. Each can be done at church, or in the home, or in public space. They can become part of your regular Advent worship, or used in a special service of remembrance and healing.

Inviting others to decorate a "Remembrance Tree" can be both a powerful ministry and statement.

Another powerful ritual is inviting those who grieve (or participate) to post photos of those they want to remember this time of year.

This "Advent worship station" provides stones and pens to write the name or concern and place it by the candle. Candles are especially powerful symbols of hope.



Place these "ritual remembrances" in the sanctuary or important locations to emphasize their meaning and sense of power.

Photo credits:
Tree: journalgazette net
Stones: godspacelight .com


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We can neither ignore it nor avoid it.

This Advent, many of our fellow church members will be suffering from "2020 Election Hangover" no matter who wins, and there's likely to be a fair amount of anger or grief on the BOTH sides as folks (both regular-attender members and twice-a-year members) file in for Advent worship.

Pastor and church consultant Cary Nieuwhof is one of my regular "online reads." His messages are super-sharp, insightful, and often insightful, too. 

In his article titled, 


he writes,

"Unquestionably, things will never quite be the same again."

And then he offers four suggestions that each of us, and congregations as a whole can do to continue being the church, rather than retreating into political factions. Very much worth reading and distilling for our members.

Pastor Nieuwhof has a lot of other great articles. This next one is also especially timely in this Pandemic + Election + Advent year as Christmas is a major public witness -- an opportunity to show the world (and your Uncle Bob) how Christians treat each other even if they disagree with each other.


Food for thought as we approach these milestones in this unusual and challenging year.



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"Be Not Afraid"

As sung by the recording artists of Oregon Catholic Media. Posted May 2020 by Salt and Light Media during the COVID pandemic.

This slower but powerful song has been a staple of many youth gatherings over the years and has since entered into many church hymnals and song lists. The collection of artists singing and playing the song in the video is impressive and moving, and the finish is inspiring. 

YouTube link:

Advent worship video?

Advent sermon intro?

Online at-home inspiration?


Full Lyrics to "Be Not Afraid"

100 Bible Verses about "Be Not Afraid," "Fear Not"

Luke 2:10 ~Then the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid, for behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy which will be to all people.

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